Over the last week or so there’s been a lot of talk about the “It’s not ok” campaign (I recommend Luddite Journo and Russell Brown, I do not recommend Bill Ralston), at the same time I’ve been commuting past huge signs saying “Safe in the City â€“ Stick with your mates” with a picture of young women out on the town.
With drink driving we have, over the last few years, learnt that the person drink driving is 100% to blame and that we can and should step up and help our friends and families not drink drive.
More recently we have at least started to learn that the person who is violent towards their partner, children, elderly parent or other family member is 100% to blameÂ and that we can and should step up and help our friends and families not hurt the ones they love.
Yet when it comes to rape we hold the victim, at least partly, responsible and believe that women have a responsibility to stop their friends and family being raped.
The reality is that we all know people who rape, just as we all know people who have been raped. I’m talking about the fact some of the people we know have raped people they know, and they way they’ve talked about sex and dates and partners so we’ve had every opportunity to hear that true consent isn’t an issue for them.
This isn’t a women vs men issue â€“ both men and women are raped, both women and men rape, and every single one of us is able to stop our friends and family raping.
Why don’t the ads say that?
[Hat tip to Queen of Thorns and her magical sexual assault pixies]